They say that somewhere out there, everyone has a soulmate, someone that was meant for them from the start. It’s true, you can just tell with some people. You can see that some couples are just meant for one another.
Amanda wasn’t looking for a man. She wasn’t even looking for love. But she found it, in her hometown no less, and when she least expected it. Like any couple, she and Jack had their differences and one in particular that would take these star-crossed lovers into the realm of the truly unusual.
It was a stormy day and the angry swells of a violent sea rocked the vessel incessantly. But Amanda wasn’t about to let her big day be spoiled by something as trivial as a storm. She and her husband Jack were determined to have their wedding while sailing on the Atlantic Ocean and that was precisely what they were going to do.
Far and Near
Jack, who is a native Haitian, met Amanda, who incidentally spends some of her free time dressing as one of the first female Jack Sparrow cosplayers, in her home country. She lives in the small coastal city of Drogheda, Ireland. The two hit it off almost immediately and in no time at all had turned their fledgling flirtations into something much more serious…
Confessed Their Love
The two of them dated for six months and found that, despite the differences in their upbringing and culture, they were connected on a much deeper level than they could have anticipated. It was Amanda who first felt it and decided to make the first move. They wanted to make it official, but still had a few obstacles to overcome before the big day.
They were like most couples, they could be jealous, especially when Amanda was out cosplaying. They argued over responsibility and long-held beliefs, but always made time to go away together for a weekend when things got hectic. They would take romantic getaways to Dublin and spend the entire time just making love and clearing out the cobwebs. In no time at all the wedding arrived.
The first of the couple’s two weddings was similar to one at a registry office or courthouse. It was small, short, and simply official in its capacity. Ultimately though, the real shindig was going to take place on the ocean: a place that both Amanda and Jack had a deep affinity for. This wedding would ring in the union with a bang and involved a bigger group of family and friends.
This was not the first time Amanda had been married though. The divorced mother of four had already done this dance before. Nevertheless, she knew that Jack was different, and that things would be different. And so, sailing on the sea, she said “I do,” in her white lace gown and veil. Someone else said it back to her, but it wasn’t Jack: Jack had been dead for 300 years.
In reality, Amanda’s soulmate was none other than the ghost of a 300-year-old Haitian pirate named Jack Teague. Jack was a Haitian freebooter who died by hanging in 1753, while he was in his mid 50s. He was executed for his complicity in helping slaves escape during a time when such a thing was considered unheard of.
What is perhaps even stranger than Amanda’s congress with the ghost of a long-dead pirate is the fact that she has no idea what Jack looks or sounds like. The only things she knows are that Jack is of African descent and looks to be in about his 50s. The couple communicate with each other through mediumship, a practice of communicating with the dead. Suffice it to say, Amanda’s situation was an unusual one.
On the big day, the two stood at the altar and declared their intentions. Though, a medium had to be present in order to affirm that Jack Teague gave his consent. The two did indeed meet in Drogheda, Ireland, when the ghost came to Amanda as she slept. After a brief, frightened exchange, Amanda realized that the man who would become her husband was gentle, caring, and a real hero.
According to the new Mrs. Teague, she was the first person in the UK and Ireland to legally marry a ghost. Now, you might think: well hey, how is that legal? The thing of it is, the law does not expressly recognize marriage to a deceased person, but there are some loopholes.
Amanda had a plan to make sure the wedding went off without a hitch. “We sailed into international waters so we could legally marry. It’s not legal in the UK or Ireland to marry a deceased person, so we spoke to some lawyers and did it officially.” She added that it’s not a criminal offense either.
The one government agent who spoke with Amanda simply asked her to fully explain her situation. After an hour-long discussion of her spirituality and she and Jack’s connection, he simply accepted it and moved on. No one in the UK or Ireland has come forward to challenge the wedding since it took place, but she said if it happens she’ll be ready to fight.
Willing to Fight
“If in the future I am challenged, my legal advisors have told me that there are certain routes we could go down to try and get our marriage recognized by law.” And Amanda Teague is willing to do just that if it means that she and Jack can be recognized as husband and wife. Still, this practice is not unusual … at least not in the grand scheme of human history.
Not the First
It may sound completely mad, but ghost relationships and marriages are not unheard of … even in the modern day. Two women were reported to have been in passionate love affairs with ghostly guys before. Amanda’s story is just one of many and ultimately, it is a story that many spiritual enthusiasts the world over look to for inspiration.
Quite a Tally
Amethyst Realm, a 27-year-old spiritual guidance counselor from Bristol, England, has had similar encounters. She has had sexual, spiritual liaisons with over 20 different ghosts and described each in detail. Apparently she wears a specific type of lingerie that attracts sexually-charged spirits.
There is such a thing as necrogamy, the concept of a posthumous marriage. However, most of the time, this has very little to do with ghosts and much more to do with marrying soldiers who were killed in war in order to give their loved ones the chance to marry their lost loves even after the war has ended. This very thing happened after WWI…
Originally, the practice was started in France following the Great War. The French government allowed hundreds of women to marry their partners who died in the war and decades later opened it up for civilians as well. French President Charles de Gaulle once allowed Iréne Jodart, who lost her fiance André Capra in 1959, to marry his ghost.
Legal in France
In France, it is explicitly legal to marry a deceased person and Article 171 of the French civil code states: “The President of the Republic may, for serious reasons, authorize the celebration of the marriage where one of the future spouses is dead.” There are other countries where it’s legal as well…
China, Sudan, South Korea, Germany, South Africa, Japan and, as surprising as it sounds, even the US have seen judges allow strange forms of wedlock to be recognized by the law of the land. Of course, in all these examples, the deceased and their partner knew one another before death. Jack, being a ghost from the 18th century, never knew Amanda when he was alive.
In a final twist of logic, Amanda insisted that Jack Teague is the real life inspiration for her cosplay character and franchise favorite, “Jack Sparrow,” of Pirates of the Caribbean franchise fame. Apparently, Sparrow’s father, played by Keith Richards, is the former pirate lord of Madagascar and goes by the name of Edward Teague.